To be honest, this is something I never anticipated to be writing. But after the gentle nudging of a few friends, and the realization of what a difference this has made in my life, I thought it was time I took a shot at it.
I've always been me. I've been plus size for most of my life, and to be honest it's never affected how I dressed myself. Sure, clothes are much harder to buy. Sure, I'm sometimes super self conscious. Sure, sometimes I look at myself and I don't see what other people do whether for good or bad. But honestly into my teenage years and my adulthood, I didn't want to bother with how I presented myself. I bought clothes that fit. And slowly I began this decline into feeling less and less like myself. Getting dressed in the morning became taxing, when my jeans felt too tight it felt like an attack on my soul, and all of the plus size bloggers felt like the way that they dressed was unattainable.
When I turned 25 I made a 26 before 26 list and on it I put that I wanted to 'Dress in Happiness' daily. This was I project that I followed for the past year by Natalie Creates in which she got dressed fully every day and began to realize that there was a direct correlation with putting on a good outfit and feeling great. In one blog post she mentions that a few things happened to her. She said that it was transformative to her spirit and her work ethic and she 1) felt pretty. 2) felt ready what would be ahead. 3) felt capable. 4) felt that she was worth it.
Those were things I desperately wanted in my own life. Natalie, through her project, also ended up prioritizing her health and wellness resulting in a fitness and weight loss journey. I found that deciding to honor my body by dressing it well, I also wanted to do good things for it. In this past year not only have I developed a personal style, I've found many different things I enjoy doing for exercise, I've prioritized hydration, and I've began to focus on nutrition as well. Yes, I've lost some weight, but honestly that's no longer important when compared to the fact that I feel good. I feel good in my skin. I feel good in my style. I feel good being me.
Even when I put on stretchy pants and a t-shirt, the outfit feels put together and cohesive because it is. I try not to wear things that I don't love or feel great in. I try to buy things that I absolutely love and work with people that I absolutely love. Dressing myself well has infiltrated every area of my life.
I also found rebuilding a wardrobe on a budget fun and exciting! I began investing in pieces that I knew would last for a long time, like this great hat from Goorin Brothers! Then by using local thrift stores and online retailers like Thred Up (where this great denim shirt is from!) I am able to continue constantly evolving my closet as the seasons change along with my body and my style.
How do you feel about personal style? Is it something you're scared to conquer or are you the queen of your domain?